What Personality Types Are INTJs Compatible With?

What Personality Types Are INTJs Compatible With?

INTJs make focused, driven partners who are direct communicators. They’re invested in solving relationship problems and, as a result, are proactive about facing problems others might avoid, pushing through difficult relational patches in order to consistently grow with their partner.

This focus on logic can make them seem distant or unemotional to more intuitive or emotionally-driven partners, and what may feel direct and useful to an INTJ can seem cold and heartless to someone else. In a long conversation about a relationship issue, an INTJ can lose patience with their partner if they feel as if their partner is being obtuse and overly emotional when, to the INTJ, a clear solution is in plain sight.

However, the INTJ does understand that their perspective has its limitations, as with all perspectives, so they’re often interested in partners who can challenge them or see things from a different point of view.

Some qualities that make the INTJ a good partner

• Being honest and open about their perspective
• Directly assessing the cause of a conflict or an issue
• Willing to be very independent and will offer their partner the same freedom

Aspects that might be difficult for the INTJ in a romantic relationship

• Listening with patience and empathy
• Revealing their own emotions to a partner
• Maintaining a warm tone and receptive demeanor in emotional conversations

Which personality types are compatible with the INTJ?

INTJs are gifted strategists and highly intuitive. At best, confident, independent, decisive—even visionary. But at worst, this type can be judgmental, arrogant, and a little clueless in romance.

This means the INTJ needs a partner who, on some basic level, sees the world as they do—but without being the same. (That would be boring!) The INTJ partner needs to be committed and patient, someone who understands that the best qualities in their INTJ have their more difficult counter sides, too.

For INTJs, compatible types are ENFPs, ENTPs, and ENTJs. They’re similar enough to have a baseline agreement with many of the INTJ traits. But different enough to make life challenging and exciting.

The ‘EN’ types share the INTJ’s intuitive nature, meaning the relationship will likely be characterized by far-ranging and stimulating conversations. However, these types are all extroverts that can help lead the INTJ out of their shell and pull them out of the world of intellect and theory and into the world of people.

INTJ—ENTJ

ENTJs are confident, outgoing, and in control. They like being at the center of things, directing the action. However, the flip side to this dynamism can be stubbornness and impatience.

Often an ENTJ type is less intense and inhibited than an INTJ, with a social charisma that the INTJ lacks. Both are intellectually oriented, driven types which can be career-focused and ambitious. INTJs and ENTJs share many traits and only really diverge on the extroversion/introversion axis, which can be a complementary difference.

Something that INTJs and ENTJs both find difficult is dealing with change and unexpected conflict. Both are types to adhere strictly to a plan. If in a relationship together, it can be important for this weakness to be acknowledged. Both personalities should remind themselves of the positive aspects of change and can bond by working together to create a new plan and strategy to deal with change.

INTJ—ENTP

The ENTP is outgoing, dynamic, fierce, and creative. They enjoy debate and engage with and deconstruct a range of ideas during their lives. Mentally agile, versatile, and creative, it’s understandable why the ENTP is known as the debater.

An INTJ–ENTP pair are likely to share an excellent intellectual connection, with the ability to talk about and connect over a range of philosophical and complex topics.

The ENTP tends to have a more flexible and playful approach to life and can find the INTJ to be a grounding presence. Whereas the INTJ can be drawn out of their seriousness and high-mindedness by the ENTP’s liveliness.

INTJ—ENFP

The ENFP personality is outgoing, creative, and with an energy that’s often described as infectious. The ENFP does not like routine and prefers to have a lot of different interests and obsessions. Though they have a lot of passion for their ideas, taking them to the point of fruition can be difficult for an ENFP—something that an INTJ can find frustrating.

Together, the ENFP and INTJ can be intellectual and creative dynamite. The ENFP is an idea generator, and the INTJ has the drive and focuses on bringing ideas into reality.

When the two work well together, their intellects can be incredibly complementary. However, if the two are out of sync, then the INTJ will see the ENFP as an impractical idealist who’s out of touch with reality, and the ENFP will see the INTJ as robotic and inhuman.

INTJ—INTJ

Though a rare combination (due to the rareness of the INTJ personality), the INTJ–INTJ can work well. Many report this relationship combo as being “drama-free” as the two INTJs will likely be very straightforward with one another and express, in logical terms, what they need from one another. After being in relationships with other personality types, the INTJ can find it a great relief to have someone who understands them on this level.

However, it can be difficult for this pairing to build intimacy and trust, especially early on, as the INTJ can be guarded. However, over time, this combination can result in an incredibly solid and satisfying relationship with very little conflict.